Connection is the solution to addiction
When we came to recovery we realised we had been looking for connection in all the wrong places.
Acting out partners didn’t give us what we needed, so we looked for other people or other behaviours. Eventually we ended up here and we have learnt that connection with other sex addicts helps us to focus on recovery and stay sober.
Connection replaces the addictive sexual behaviours we used to rely on.
The SAA Women’s Outreach Committee
Our mission is: “To reach out to all women who desire to stop addictive sexual behavior; to assist these women in connecting with other SAA women; to provide a safe place for women to reach out to other women for support and sponsorship; and to give women a voice in the SAA fellowship.”
Contacts around the world
This is a list of women-specific contacts taken from International and state-wide (Intergroup) websites. There are 61 Intergroups and most have a one email/phone number for all genders. If you ask to speak with a woman they can put you in touch. Remember it’s safe to speak to sexually sober men as long as both people respect each others’ boundaries.
| Contact | Phone | |
| International questions | womensoutreach@saa-recovery.org | |
| International women contacts | grace@saa-women.org | |
| United Kingdom | women@saauk.info | (+44) 07766 075247 |
| Ottowa | women@saaottawa.org | |
| Dallas | dallaswomensgroup@gmail.com | (+1) 469-454-0565 |
| Florida | (+1) 407-906-7221 | |
| Central Florida | (+1) 407) 906-7221 | |
| Austin | women@saa-austin.org | |
| Vancouver | women@saavancouver.org | |
| Bay Area, San Francisco | (+1) 510 426-6420 | |
| Colorado | susanbxaxanon@gmail.com | |
| Women’s Intergroup | SAAwomensIG@gmail.com | |
| Portland, Oregon | (+1)971 266 0777 |
There are many places to find connections:
Several groups maintain lists of members seeking and providing contact information. (Women’s Outreach, Telemeeting Intergroup, LGBT Outreach). We often use the term ‘outreach’ for contacting people in the program.
- Women can request the Grace List of women wanting connection. by emailing grace@saa-women.org
- International or state-wide groups (Intergroups) may have contacts for women only. Check the Intergroup page list.
- See Women’s Outreach website for more information.
- Contacting women on the international website.
- LGBT Support List if you identify as LGBTQ+, email lgbt@saa-recovery.org
Meetings
We also connect at meetings with men and women. Listening to stories, looking for the similarities in our experiences and hearing the joy of recovery.
Women-only meetings, either Telemeetings or local (face-to-face).
Meetings might have email or phone lists of members who would like to be contacted. They will also be able to put you in touch with other women they know.
Mixed gender Telemeeting contact list
Mixed gender – Intimacy and Sexual Avoidance contact information is included in ISA Resources or email avoidance@saa-recovery.org
It’s important for men and women to protect their boundaries to stay sexually sober. Have a look at our page on safety.
Read about connecting
- How to cope with isolation on page 6 in The Outer Circle for November – December 2020
- Belonging when you don’t hear stories like your own on page 6, in The Outer Circle for March – April 2021
- What to do when family and friends don’t support recovery on page 6, in The Outer Circle for May -June 2020
- Travel, open-mindedness needed for face-to-face meetings on page 14, in The Outer Circle for January – February 2017
- The need for intimate connections, pages 5-6, IISAA quarterly “The Check IN”, Winter 2021
- Twelve-Step connections, page 5, IISAA quarterly The Check IN, Winter 2021